The Traditionalist In Me...

I have different beliefs to a lot of females i know in my generation and contrary to what the ''New Age'' would have you believe, my stand remains: MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL.  Though they may have equal roles in today's world, this does not make them equal. This issue has somewhat become a taboo subject and before you women start hurling stones at me, hear me out.

As we all know by nature's default, there are so many characteristics that make the two sexes different so i won't turn this into a lecture by going into that. If we go back in history, we'll see that the woman was simply an object with no opinions and could be inherited. Now that is one extreme i completely disagree with and though woman was made for man as a helper and complementary being in my opinion, i am in no way implying women should be used as foot mats.

With that said, being a traditional woman is related more to my beliefs than lifestyle as i have a career and though i am independent, it does not distract me from believing that men and women though different should be complementary. I believe a mother's place is beside her children and that the family structure is extremely important for the children's wellbeing and for society. This does not mean a woman should automatically be a housewife who slaves all day but a certain balance should be struck that is if marital finances permit. Put simply, a traditional woman to me loves her children and family more than she loves her career and status, and is often gently nurturing and self-sacrificing but not always necessarily submissive. (I am submissive but not stupid).

I enjoy catering for my man. Note the word 'enjoy'. I enjoy cooking and though I'd rather the house help do the cleaning, i don't mind it at all (stems from my OCD habits), i am usually the nurse and tend to fuss over my man when he is indisposed . Lots of women would prefer a man who cooks and all that and yes, it's nice to have a man who can surprise me with a gourmet meal but I'd rather not, please. Surprise me with diamonds or a meal at a 7 star restaurant instead. My department, my control, my zone. *Ouch! Just felt some stones thrown at me.*

Think what you like and just so you know, my 'traditional beliefs' do not encompass my total being . I'm a fucking freak in the bedroom ;-)

Pride

It's now past mid-day and no contact from 'Tee'. No 6am 'Morning Sweetness' and the likes... Now, I know I should make first contact and apologise but nah, i'll pass!

"Pride is a personal commitment. It is an attitude which separates excellence from mediocrity."

Pride to me is an essential quailty that has protected me in more ways than one. In past relationships, I let my pride slip twice and you really don't want to know where that got me. Akeem, the first and long term love had his field day with me. He pushed, prodded and poked however way he could and most times, I sat there like a 'dodoyo' taking it all. Afterall, he was 10years older than me so this must be how its done! Time out! I awoke from that slumber 5 and a half years later and I am who I am.

Fast forward: 2008. I let my guard down again for Benue boy and surprise, surprise...it didn't pay! So, i revert to me circa 2004 - 2008 and like Voltron, I vow to defend my universe, my being and my sanity!

I am aware that some people see my pride as an attractive quality while others unfailingly advise it makes me come across as arrogant hence I miss out on great opportunities to enjoy romance, passion and love. For what it's worth, I'm willing to take that chance.  The difference is, I will not let my pride define my sense of self. This is simply because it doesn't stem from selfishness or greed, but from the desperate fear of being seen as weak or vulnerable.

Tee has become quite important to me over the last few weeks so I'll wait and see how this plays out...